Therapy & Counseling in Midland TX

Counseling for depression and anxiety in Midland texasAt Therapy for Families, we offer a variety of therapy and counseling services to people in Odessa and Midland area, Texas area. We strive to connect with individuals and families to help them learn strategies, gain understanding, and find new ways to resolve issues in their personal lives and relationships.

Our counseling options range from families, to individuals and everything in between. We know that life can be challenging, but believe that happiness and understanding is achievable. If you feel that counseling services will benefit your life, please fill out a form on our contact us page for a free 15-minute phone consultation, or call us today and we can start discussing your counseling options!

Counseling Services near Midland, Texas

Our Midland office is off of 20 and located near Centennial Park. We offer our therapy services Tuesday and Thursday.

At Therapy for Families we accept payments by cash, check, or HSA  card. We also accept church payments. We do not accept insurance, but you can bill your own insurance as out of network. Our rates are $135.00 for a 50-minute session, with the introductory session being $150.00.

For more information and answers, please refer to our Frequently Asked Questions page. You can also contact us with any specific questions, concerns, or to set up a free 15-minute consultation.

We enjoy helping people find peace, change and happiness through therapy. At Therapy for Families, believe counseling is a great step towards happiness and a positive outlook on life. Our therapists strive to create a positive and enjoyable counseling experience!

Our counseling services in Cypress is backed by years of experience, research, and happy clients. Again, please feel free to reach out to us with any questions or give us a call to discuss your needs and concerns.

At Therapy for Families, we offer a variety of therapy and counseling services in Midland , Texas and the surrounding areas. We have many years of professional experience in helping individuals, couples, and families find healing and peace through personalized and specific counseling services.

We offer counseling services to help with anxiety,  depressionguilt, infidelity, lack of communication, sleep issues and more. We are happy to help you resolve the current issues you are facing and give you tools to overcome problems that may come your way. Please fill out a form on our contact us page if you feel that you can benefit from a free 15-minute phone consultation, or call us today and we can start discussing your counseling options!


Personalized Counseling Services near Midland

Counseling for depression and anxiety in Midland texasOur Midland office is located at the Honululu Building just minutes from Midland City Hall. We are located just off of  Loraine Street. We offer our therapy services Monday- Thursday from 8 a.m. to 3 p.m on each of those days.

At Therapy for Families we accept payments by cash, check, or HSA  card. We also accept church payments. We do not accept insurance, but you can bill your own insurance as out of network. Our rates are $135.00 for a 50-minute session, with the introductory session being $150.00.

For more information and answers, please refer to our Frequently Asked Questions page. You can also contact us with any specific questions, concerns, or to set up a free 15-minute consultation.


We are here to help you find healing and hope and know we can help provide you with the tools to gain a positive outlook on your relationship, life, or family situation. Our counseling services in Midland are backed by years of experience, research, and happy clients. Again, please feel free to reach out to us with any questions or give us a call to discuss your needs and concerns.

PTSD & Trauma Therapy

Have you been trying to manage your feelings and experiences on our own? Do you feel your life lacks pleasure due to feeling numb? Do you constantly battle negative thoughts? Disconnecting from your loved ones while experiencing physical and mental distress that you can’t seem to move forward from? You may be struggling to recover from Trauma.


Trauma is damage to the mind that occurs as a result of a distressing event. Trauma is often the result of an overwhelming amount of stress that exceeds one’s ability to cope, or integrate the emotions involved with that experience. Trauma may result from a single distressing experience or recurring events of being overwhelmed that can be precipitated in weeks, years, or even decades as the person struggles to cope with the immediate circumstances, eventually leading to serious, long-term negative consequences.

What are Symptoms of Trauma?

  • Anxiety
  • Intense fear
  • Change in sleep
  • Change in appetite
  • Change in behavior
  • Emotional numbing
  • Withdrawing from loved ones
  • Nightmares
  • Exhaustion

Traumatic Events

  • Sexually Assault
  • Pandemics such as Covid-19
  • Illness
  • Grief, loss of someone or something
  • Job Loss
  • Abuse (sexually, physically, mentally and/or emotionally)
  • Witnessing an accident
  • Caregiving
  • Chronic Stress
  • Addiction
  • Natural disasters (such as earthquake, flood, tornado)
  • Man made disasters (such as bombings)
  • Violent person attacks (such as mugging, kidnap or being held captive)
  • Shock Trauma

Because trauma differs between individuals, according to their subjective experiences, people will react to similar traumatic events differently. In other words, not all people who experience a potentially traumatic event will actually become psychologically traumatized. However, it is possible for some people to develop post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) after being exposed to a major traumatic event. This discrepancy in risk rate can be attributed to protective factors some individuals may have that enable them to cope with trauma; they are related to temperamental and environmental factors from among others.

Signs of Emotional Abuse

If you’re wondering whether it’s happening to you, here are some of the signs: 

  • Yelling at you
  • Name-calling
  • Spewing insults or otherwise ridiculing you
  • Attempting to make you question your own sanity (gaslighting)
  • Invading your privacy
  • Punishing you for not going along with what they want
  • Trying to control your life
  • Isolating you from family and friends
  • Making subtle or overt threats
  • Expectations of you are never met (unrealistic)
  • They create chaos
  • Humiliate you in public
  • Treats you like a possession or property

Sexual Assault

One in six women and one in 33 men in the U.S. has been raped or been the victim of attempted rape. After being sexually assaulted, it can be difficult to know where to turn for help. It is just as important to get help for the emotional impact of sexual assault as it is to receive care for physical wounds. Even if they think they are coping well, survivors of sexual assault often experience self-blame, lowered self-esteem, panic attacks, eating disorders, difficulty sleeping and concentrating, and problems with work and social interactions.  The National Women’s Study found that 30% of rape survivors suffer from depression. Rape survivors are also at an increased risk for suicide and drug abuse. Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), anxiety, and fear are common among rape survivors. Interestingly, therapies that were designed to help soldiers with PTSD are now being used to help victims of sexual assault. Symptoms Include:

  • Intrusive re-experiencing (through memories or reminders) of the assault
  • Avoidance of trauma-related stimuli or reminders
  • Alterations in thoughts and mood (negative thinking and depressed, anxious, or angry mood)
  • Increased arousal and reactivity (anxiety, hypervigilance, irritability, easily star

You might be in denial at first. It can be shocking to find yourself in such a situation. It’s natural to hope you’re wrong. It is common to feel confused, fearful, hopeless and shame.This emotional toll can also result in behavioral and physical side effects. You may experience:

women laying in bed with depression, anxiety and trauma. She is going to schedule an appt with a trauma therapist in Houston tx

  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Moodiness
  • Muscle tension
  • Nightmares
  • Racing heartbeat
  • Various aches and pains

Types of Trauma Disorders such as Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD): A disorder in which a person has difficulty recovering after experiencing or witnessing a terrifying event. The condition may last months or years, with triggers that can bring back memories of the trauma accompanied by intense emotional and physical reactions. Symptoms may include nightmares or unwanted memories of the trauma, avoidance of situations that bring back memories of the trauma, heightened reactions, anxiety, or depressed mood. Treatment includes different types of trauma-focused psychotherapy as well as medications to manage symptoms.

Acute stress disorder (ASD): is an intense, unpleasant, and dysfunctional reaction beginning shortly after an overwhelming traumatic event and lasting less than a month. If symptoms persist longer than a month, people are diagnosed as having post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)

Adjustment disorders: is a group of symptoms, such as stress, feeling sad or hopeless, and physical symptoms that can occur after you go through a stressful life event. The symptoms occur because you are having a hard time coping. Your reaction is stronger than expected for the type of event that occurred.

Reactive attachment disorder (RAD): is described in clinical literature as a severe and relatively uncommon disorder that can affect children. RAD is characterized by markedly disturbed and developmentally inappropriate ways of relating socially in most contexts.


Specific treatment for PTSD will be determined by your individual circumstances:

  • Your age, overall health and medical history
  • The severity and extent of your disease
  • Your tolerance for specific medications, procedures, or therapies
  • Your expectations for the course of the disease
  • Your opinion or preference


Treatment for trauma includes cognitive-behavioral therapy which helps process and evaluate thoughts and feelings about a trauma. A number of psychotherapy approaches have been designed with the treatment of trauma , such as EMDR therapy, mindfulness techniques, as well as Cognitive- behavioral Treatment (CPT).

Treatment Benefits: 

  • Help you calm and soothe yourself
  • Increase your awareness of, and access to, inner strengths and outside resources
  • Process specific memories, through carefully guided talk and/or writing
  • Challenge yourself to reconnect and do non-dangerous things you have been avoiding since the traumatic event(s)
  • Challenge trauma-based thinking, so that you can restore a healthy mental framework for living
  • Make meaning of what happened and how it has affected your deepest self and your family
  • Reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety
  • Increase a personal sense of confidence and competence
  • Regain your quality of life, including enhanced relationships with others, greater activity level, and more positive and stable mood
  • Reduce, if not eliminate, trauma-reaction symptoms/symptoms of PTSD

Begin Trauma and PTSD therapy near Houston, Clear Lake, Katy and The Woodlands Texas.

Our compassionate therapists, support and assist clients to connect with their authentic self and learn to love, not hate, themselves. Also, behaviors will be evaluated that are not currently working for them. We utilize multiple therapy modalities based on the client’s personality and problem. The therapy modalities are all research-based and are showing success based on the particular problems and the client.

Our greatest desire at Therapy for Families is to help each individual feel comfortable and hopeful about their therapy process. Please feel free to contact us with any questions or concerns. We also offer a free consultation to help assess how therapy can benefit you and help you to feel peace and happiness again.

Services available online state wide in Texas, Utah, and Florida.

This new year has been a “new temporary norm” to adjust to. Thankfully, it will be temporary. With this blog, we wanted to share attainable tools to practice daily to give you more balance in our current circumstance. The effects of the coronavirus have been devastating to not just our country, but the entire world. The most common effect it has had on our communities is the damage to individuals mental health. Here are potential symptoms to watch out for: anxiety (ex: worrying), obsessions (ex: ocd), loneliness (ex: depressive episode), and traumatic stress (NAMI, March 2020). In the U.S. alone, nearly 7 million people are affected by generalized anxiety disorders and about 6 million with panic disorders. These numbers are expected to increase in the next few months (ABCNEWS, March 2020).

Tools to increase structure, balance, healthy coping and decrease stress:

 Follow a regular routine: 

A regular routine will help you keep a healthy balance, better health, decreases stress, improves focus and even an increase in self-discipline. It allows you to have better time management, which helps to organize your precious time. Maintaining a regular sleep schedule, which maintains the timing of the body’s internal clock and can help you fall asleep and wake up more easily. http://www.skilledatlife.com/18-reasons-why-a-daily-routine-is-so-important/

Body movement: 

Benefits of moving your body regularly helps with enhancing your brain’s health, circulation, mood, regulates digestion, bones and lymph become healthier. It is both good for the body and mental health. https://mindbody.io/blog/wellness/movement-beneficial-your-mental-health

 Reduce social media and screen time: 

Reducing social media may increase one’s personal time and productivity, increase ability to focus, improve self-esteem and may even help reclaim a sense of self. Too much screen time can increase anxiety, insomnia and stress. It can also be hard on the eyes and even cause Computer Vision Syndrome (CVS). Reducing screen time can help prevent headaches, improve sleep and focus. It is important to stay connected with our loved ones. Balance with technology is the key for appropriate care with mental health.


 Create hobbies to work on: 

What’s in that dusty closet of yours that hasn’t had much attention due to busy life? Crafts? Jewelry making? Art? Paint brushes? Drawing? Photography? Or even Volunteering or an act of Service? Take a minute to ponder what makes your heart sing that you’ve put on the back burner. https://www.positivelypresent.com/2013/06/benefits-of-having-a-hobby.html

Clean and/or organize one small area a day: 

Doing this can help to reduce the feeling of being overwhelmed, stressed and it can help to gain a sense of productivity. It also helps one’s head feel more clear of clutter, it can increase your energy and calm the specific living space. And last of all, it sets a good example to your children.


Research easy home activities to do with your children and as a family: 

Like, breakfast in bed, hide & seek, plant a garden if you have a yard, make decorations to decorate windows, have a dance party, make friendship bracelets, play board games, have more story time, have a pillow fight, have a tea party, write letters to family friends and explore your creative side.


Journal daily:

Journaling can be a powerful cleansing tool for the soul. It reduces stress and allows our mind and heart to sort through the day, by hand, and self reflect. It can bring more clarity, peace and gratitude to your life. It also boosts memory, creativity and improves goal setting outcomes.


Read that book that’s been sitting on that shelf waiting for you:

Reading is very important for your brain. It strengthens it! It increases empathy, builds vocabulary, reduces stress, lowers blood pressure, aids in good sleep, lengthens lifespan, alleviates depression and prevents cognitive decline. And most of all, time goes by faster when reading something that’s of interest. https://www.healthline.com/health/benefits-of-reading-books

We encourage you to practice these tools daily and hope they give you a more balanced life during this hard time WE are all going through together. We are here to support you through it. Please reach out if you are struggling at www.healingwholeness.com. We offer therapy services state wide in Texas, Utah, California, New Jersey and Rhode Island.

Other Resources:





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EMDR Stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. It is a therapeutic approach which helps to heal those who have suffered from substantially traumatic experiences in their life.



This treatment can help with a variety of symptoms or diagnosis. There has been substantial research that proves it is very effective for Post Traumatic Stress (PTSD). It can also be effective in alleviating:

  • High anxiety
  • Depression
  • Memories and flashbacks of a traumatic experience
  • Unrealistic feelings of guilt and shame
  • Difficulty in trusting others
  • Relationship issues
  • Addiction
  • Pain Management
  • Eating Disorders
  • Phobias


EMDR therapy heals trauma, while teaching you skills on how to handle emotional distress in real life. It helps to release the grasp trauma has on your body and mind, while simultaneously relieving your symptoms. All together, this helps to regain your life and further you in your healing process.


Our role as helpers is very important while we provide support to others who are going through grief and trauma as a result of Hurricane Harvey. It is crucial to recognize that during this vulnerable time, self-care is more important than ever. It is a good thing we are all having different experiences which help us to be better able to support each other.

I have been experiencing survivor’s guilt, which is a thought process or condition regarding feelings of guilt or shame about surviving a traumatic event. I am not experiencing a tenth of what others are experiencing, my family and I got lucky!

As I went to volunteer at the shelter with my kiddos, I caught myself feeling shame.  After a couple of hours, I got hungry (which everyone human being feels) and my feet started to hurt. I caught myself having shaming thoughts about my healthy human condition of wanting to meet my hunger needs and take a break from walking. I recognized that those thoughts were not healthy.

The truth is, that “self-care” can help us become better helpers and caregivers. Are you aware that you can experience something called “secondary trauma?”  this is indirectly experiencing trauma from just hearing someone’s story! Secondary trauma is also known as “compassion fatigue,” so this is important to pay attention to.  It would be very hard for you to support others if you are suffering from secondary trauma. The more your central nervous system is stable, the better you can be ready to help stabilize others and they can be in a better position to fully heal.

Here are five things you can do: Self-care for helpers.

1) Nurture your social connections/attachments:

I am sure you have heard the huge buzz about “attachment” and you are aware of the abundance of research on what secure attachment can provide for us. Keeping some of the research in mind, you recall the focus on how it can help with our healing, both emotionally and physically. We are wired as human beings to be have secure relationships/attachments.  This alone will teach our nervous systems to self-regulate, or go into a healing mode.  This means that our bodies won’t reach a point outside our tolerance of pain. If, however, it does, we can bring it back to that healing mode because we have a reference point.

We are then able to cope within our tolerance of pain. However, when we go too far beyond our tolerance, then healing and working through painful situations cannot happen. Healthy relationships are crucial to our healing and stress.

There are a few things we can do to be consistent with nurturing our secure attachments. First, remind yourself you are worthy of love and belonging (you are lovable.) Second, figure out your  love language and your loved ones’ love language(s.) Be vulnerable to ask “to get your love language needs met” and be wise enough to meet your spouse’s love language needs in the way they prefer. Third, make your relationship safe for you  and the other person to be open about vulnerable feelings while not being judgmental, and while offering forgiveness, compassion and ownership of your part in the pain as well.  Fourth, be sure to validate your spouse’s emotions. You don’t need to fix it. Just be supportive.

2) Be aware of your own needs:

When it comes to self-care, it is extremely important to be aware of and listen to your body and take ownership of it. God gave us our beautiful bodies with many different functions. It is our job to show respect to our bodies, because no one else can do it for us.  Have a drink of water when you’re thirsty, rest if you are tired, eat when you’re hungryplay, laugh, cry, do some physical activity, and express yourself. Also, give yourself permission to take a break from the news and social media. Too much of anything isn’t healthy. In addition, part of finding your balance consists of reducing stress by paying attention to your body.

Mindfulness and relaxation have never failed me. There are many grounding and mindfulness practices that can help with reducing stress such as deep breathing, yoga, positive self-talk, creating a safe place, and progressive relaxation. You can practice any of these techniques, anywhere. For example, if you are on your way home from volunteering at the shelter or helping with a cleanup, you can focus on your breathing , or the scenery or even just count (I know it sounds weird, but it is calming!) .

I know with Hurricane Harvey, there were countless situations where crisis workers (police, doctors, nurses, therapists, and rescues) were working hours on end and they didn’t have the luxury of opting out of helping, because of the pressure of life or death was in their hands, and every second of the day was so valuable.  It was important for people in that situation to listen to their body, seek support, and debrief after every situation.

3. Be realistic about how you can help:

There are many ways you can offer your service and help. For example, you may be a stay-home parent, taking care of your young children while your spouse is working or helping others with the cleanup. You can do laundry for others, make baked goods, write notes to the victims of the Hurricane, and be a listening ear for a friend who experienced trauma that left a lot of victims. It’s really import to understand your limitations and you are not selfish for doing so. Another example would be someone who suffers from the chronic back pain,  it wouldn’t be wise to help with cleanup and tearing down dry wall.

4. Be aware of your shame thoughts and combat them with a healthy story:

Every human has over 50,000 thoughts a day and some of those thoughts and stories we tell ourselves are distorted. For example, ”I am not worthy, I am selfish, I am dumb,” and the list goes on. Such thoughts can provoke the defeated feelings of being a failure or unworthiness. For example, if I am telling myself that I am selfish because I need to rest or go to the gym then my feelings are going to result in me feeling bad about myself. It’s important to pay attention to our stories and reframe the story to a healthier story. Healthier Story: “I can better help others if go to the gym and eat. And, I will have some energy to give to my spouse and children to meet their needs.”

5) Finding balance:

My balance is going to look very different from yours because our situations are not identical. I have a husband who needs me to be supportive of him, and I have three kids ranging from 1-11 years old to nurture. In addition, I am a licensed marriage and family therapist and own a full practice in Houston and in The Woodlands.  More so, I feel it is an honor and also my duty to support my clients during this catastrophic event known as Hurricane Harvey.

Time management is going to be important in this process to get our priorities together, and one way you can do this is use Sunday (the beginning of the week) to do good family planning.  This may include family time (ask for feedback from your children and your spouse and find out if you are meeting their emotional needs.) It may also include work, food preparation, kids’ sports, service to others, self-care, and other obligations. For example, if you have a full week, and you would like to offer your help, figure out on your schedule where you can do that: “On Tuesday I have a gap in my schedule for a few hours to do someone else’s laundry, or babysit or help with Harvey clean-up.”

Once you have worked your way through these five steps, you will feel more balanced, less stressed, and feeling less shame. You will become far more effective as a helper and accomplish so much more than you would have otherwise done. 

Dear Harvey,

We won’t let you break us down.. #Texasstrong

According to the Happiness Project research, happiness is derived from these skills: mindfulness, gratitude, self-compassion, compassion for others, authenticity, vulnerability, letting go (forgiveness), connection, empathy, and having a purpose.
We have been taught that each of us are created in such a way that we each have a unique purpose on earth. It is fundamental idea the we are  children of God. This means that we are worthy and no one can take that away​. The world of today tells us what it thinks is worth loving or not. Some of us use such perfectionistic thinking as our defense mechanism.
 Perfectionism is rooted in shame. This negative defense mechanism is externally driven, with a huge emphasis on “what people think of you”, versus “staying true to yourself”, ignoring the opinions of others. Shame (I am a mistake and).
Research shows that shame is highly associated with perfectionism, depression, anxiety, addiction, aggression and much more. Shame is defined by James Harper, author of “Uncovering Shame” in the following way: “Shame is an emotion in response to a negative evaluation of oneself, whereas guilt is an evaluation of behavior. When people recognize that their behavior has violated some standard that has meaning to them, they feel guilty for having done it. Guilt is emotionally healthy and a necessary process of living with others.”​ 
Shame, on the other hand, means that your worthiness is on the line. In an article he wrote, “Cyber Secrets,” Harper also states: “It’s of interest to me that after Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden partook of the fruit of the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil, the first thing that Lucifer told them them was to hide. I think Lucifer is probably still trying to sell that message to men and women, children of God, ever since that time: to hide yourselves from God, as if we really could do that.”
According to Brene Brown shame grows through silence, isolation and judgement​. Because it involves these three “separating factors,” shame prevents us from healing. Guilt, on the other hand, is motivating because it only focuses a mistake we made. It is an adaptive emotion in which we compare something we did, or we failed to do, against an ideal that we would like to achieve. Healthy experiences of guilt act as a spiritual check and balance system. When our behavior is incompatible with how we want to act, we experience guilt as an opportunity for spiritual growth and change. (Brene Brown)
Guilt comes down to this: “I made a mistake and I am still worthy of love and belonging!” It is not so with shame and perfectionism. Perfectionism is never self-improvement. Perfectionism is, at its core, a game of competing to win approval. Most perfectionists grew up being praised for achievement and performance (grades, manners, rule-following, people-pleasing, and outward appearance.” (Brene Brown)
   In the process of healing from shame and perfectionism, there are many approaches, but ultimately, God is the best healer. One essential process is that a person must talk about the shame to someone they can trust, so that they can experience safe vulnerability.  The three essential steps in healing are understanding the exact nature of such shame by taking ownership of the problem behavior, learning shame-resilience, and self-compassion. If these steps are skipped, the person will remain ensnared in the trap of shame.
Research shows that, for women in general, there are “shame triggers” that involve the woman’s appearance, body image, motherhood, family, parenting, mental and physical health, aging, sex, religion, surviving trauma, speaking out, and being labeled. In addition, your husband addicted to pornography, experiencing any anger at all (specifically anger after a miscarriage), not being a good enough wife and parent, and not living up to an unrealistic image they may have seen on Instagram, Facebook and Pinterest​.
In the process of becoming shame resilient, the individuals who successfully work through their shame share common traits. They identify their shame triggers, they do a reality inventory, and they speak to a trusted person. Effective ways to talk about shame are to talk to yourself like you would talk to someone you love, minus harsh words or derogatory thinking.  Also, it is essential to talk to someone you trust by opening yourself up to their empathy.  You can then tell your story to others which helps them and you as well.
Self-compassion is essential in the healing process of working through shame.  It is important to find people who are great models of compassion, yet who are not enablers (who only want to control us with an appearance of sympathy.) Such people would be able to acknowledge that you are suffering without “pitying” you.  They are kind and understanding, yet do not try to take over your life.  They do not shame or act judgmental of you, making you feel like an inferior being.  They recognize that suffering is part of the human experience. (Dr. Kristen Neff)The full circle is ​being that safe person means that you are trustworthy and that you can offer empathy, without trying to run people’s lives. You use perspective take when expressing empathy. You withhold judgement on the one speaking. You recognize what their emotions are and help them to do so. You communicate those emotions to them. You also are a sounding board for their solutions to their problems.  By doing this, you have come full circle in your role as the model of compassion and genuine assistance to the one who is opening up to you.

Working through Perfectionism In Houston, The Woodlands and Spring- Cypress Texas


  • Studies show that 80% of individuals with a mental health diagnosis also have underlying sleep disturbance.1 Adequate sleep is essential to mental and emotional regulation. During sleep, the brain creates new pathways, processes information, and regenerates the brain and body. Research has linked inadequate sleep to a myriad of issues, including: depression, anxiety, PTSD symptoms, post-partum depression, ADHD, learning disabilities, obesity, emotional dysregulation, health complications and more.

    Surveys conducted by the National Sleep Foundation found that at least 40 million Americans suffer from sleep disorders and 60 percent of adults report having sleep problems a few nights a week or more. According to the APA, “In clinical settings, cognitive-behavior therapy (CBT) has a 70-80 percent success rate for helping those who suffer from chronic insomnia. Almost one third of people with insomnia achieve normal sleep and most reduce their symptoms by 50 percent and sleep an extra 45-60 minutes a night.”2

    As you can see, emphasizing sleep goes hand in hand with the aims of therapy. By adding a separate sleep consultation, clients will maximize the benefit of therapy and, if compliant, will see great strides in emotional regulation, overall health and well-being. Having a session with a separate sleep consultant adds emphasis to the importance of sleep and increases the likelihood of compliance, since it’s not just one of many interventions suggested by the primary therapist. Additionally, the primary therapist can maintain focus on the emotional issues for which the client originally sought therapy without being sidetracked or juggling multiple goals.

Recently my church has posted on LDS.org some unedited, authentic videos on The Twelve Steps. Those who suffer from addictions tell the story in a humble, honest way: see (http://www.mormonchannel.org/12steps). Even I, a person familiar with this topic, cried during every video.  Please offer this to your members if they are suffering from addiction, or if someone they know or love suffers from it. In addition, I will list other information on addiction:
Addiction is a disease of the brain. This can cause significant effects on the brain that make it operate differently from a normal brain. Sadly, this disease also involves shame, which silences those who suffer from it. Society tells us that addicts lack will power or are weak, bad people, but that is not true at all.  They are actually suffering from an illness, a disease, of the mind. I consider it a blessing to be a therapist who has been close to individuals who have suffered from addiction. Addicts are, instead, strong spirits who have chosen or were given this trial. In all my years of working with addiction I have found one thing to be consistent: people who suffer from this disease have a deep pain threshold. This means that they can experience joy on a profound level as well as feel pain on a deep level. I have also found these individuals to be particularly sensitive in the manner of a gift, because they have the ability to feel on a deeper level than other people. Not only do they feel their own hurts and pains, but they feel the pain of others. I always hear from parents, “I don’t understand why he is addicted. He/She used to be the happiest child.”
The scary part is that most parents don’t do a very good job of teaching our children to set healthy emotional boundaries. Why is it not acceptable for children to say “no” to others?   Why can’t they communicate to us that they are not getting their emotional needs met?  As a therapist, I have discovered that it is not my job to feel the pain of my clients. It doesn’t mean I don’t, but that Christ’s Atonement is for the feelings of pain. He already felt their pain and sorrow, and continues to do so.
I also have come to find out that most addicts use poor ways of coping with their feelings.  Research shows that the majority of them (over half) deal with a multiple diagnosis. They often have depression, anxiety, PTSD, and more. These individuals are self-medicating so that they can at least feel “normal”. Perhaps they were victims of child abuse, and they were typically taught to NOT FEEL their emotions. They simply shut down and perhaps their parents taught them to not honor their five senses. They didn’t have permission too feel. Well.. If they didn’t have that permission then they had to find ways to numb their emotions. Addictions is not about the drugs, or the sex, or food. Those are all symptoms of ways to numb the tremendous emotions that are going on inside of the addicted person.
Mental illness:
Healing emotional pain through the Atonement:
Pornography Addiction and talks about great detail about SHAME:
Vulnerability (which is important skill for healing and using the atonement):

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