Codependency & People Pleasing treatment in League City, The Woodlands & Midland TX
You feel so depleted. Everyone else’s needs always come first, no matter how exhausted, over-extended, and unappreciated you feel. Saying “no” feels like an ugly word, and you wonder if the people you care about would even stick around if you didn’t prioritize them like you do. Why does it feel like you are always trying to earn the love and respect of others?
Some people call this “people-pleasing” or “co-dependency,” but for you, it is all you’ve known in relationships. You’ve told yourself helping others is one of your values, and you are happiest when you are needed. But you can’t understand why the more you say yes, the more you do for others–the more invisible and resentful you feel. Why doesn’t anyone ask you what you want? Why does it seem like no one is there to take care of you when you need it? Why can’t you ask for the help you need?
At the heart of people-pleasing, there exists a core belief that we aren’t good enough, that our value comes from what we can do for others, and that the only way to be worthy of love is to earn it through our actions. We rely on others to validate ourselves, and to help us know who we are. Chances are, you have been engaging in these patterns for a very long time. The family you grew up in may have been troubled by addiction, abuse, neglect, chronic illness, or simply emotionally-immature, inattentive, and/or withholding parents. You may have felt like their love and attention was conditional on how well you performed or how useful you made yourself to them. You grew up feeling like it wasn’t okay to be yourself, and at some point you may have stopped trying, to the point that you forgot what it feels like to be in touch with your wants, needs, and feelings. Being what others’ expected and wanted of you felt easier and safer, but it left you feeling hollow, lonely, and worthless.
We know you’re scared. There is so much unpredictability in life and relationships, and you’re worried that if you change now, the people you care about won’t accept you. Maybe you’re afraid that if you allow yourself to connect to who you truly are, you won’t like what you see. Or even worse, other people won’t like the “real” you. YOU ARE WORTH THE RISK. Knowing yourself, and allowing yourself to be known on a real, authentic level, will allow the world to open up to you in ways you can’t even imagine. Relationships can deepen and expand, your self-confidence and sense of worth can increase, and you can feel free to follow your own dreams and goals. You will be amazed at what you’re capable of when you step outside the shadow of other people’s expectations, and learn to accept yourself and who you can become.
In therapy, you can learn to set and maintain boundaries, connect with your authentic feelings and needs, self-advocate, and find freedom from the expectations and demands of others. These skills can help improve every area of your life. Imagine reclaiming your time from a job where you feel obligated to stay late and take on other’s work load. Visualize relationships where you feel genuinely cared for and seen, with people that value you for who you are, and not what you can do for them. See yourself making choices in line with your goals and values, without centering other people’s desires over your own health and well-being. Reach out to us today for a free consultation and let us help you rediscover who you are, and all that you deserve. Your life belongs to you, let us help you reclaim it!
What is People Pleasing?
Codependency is a term often used in the context of being in a relationship with someone who abuses substances; however, there are many who suffer from codependency who are not. More so, a promising symptom is codependents choose to focus on others needs; which is why they attract individuals who are emotionally sick.
Another term for codependency is anxious attachment. The truth is our body is wired to securely attach to someone who is emotionally safe. Some of us grew up in homes that weren’t exactly emotionally nurturing, so our bodies had to adjust to survive. So our surviving attachment coping patterns had to cope somehow, and that is how anxious attachment is MOSTLY developed. I say mostly because not everything is black and white!
Signs of Codependency may Include:
Low Self-Esteem
People Pleasing
Poor Boundaries
Caretaking
Control
Dysfunctional Communication
Denial
Problems with Intimacy
Painful Emotions
HOW DOES CODEPENDENCY TREATMENT HELP WITH THE HEALING PROCESS?
Frequently Asked Questions
How do I know if I have codependent tendencies?
If you feel responsible for others’ emotions, have difficulty setting boundaries, or rely on external validation, you may have codependent patterns.
Can therapy help me build healthier boundaries?
Yes, therapy helps you understand your needs and teaches strategies to set and maintain healthy boundaries in relationships.
What modalities are used to treat codependency?
Therapists often use EMDR to process past relational trauma, DBT for boundary-setting and self-awareness, and CBT to challenge codependent thought patterns.
How is codependency linked to childhood experiences?
Codependency often develops as a coping mechanism in families where emotional needs were neglected or roles were unclear.
Can therapy help me maintain independence in relationships?
Yes, therapy can empower you to balance connection and independence while maintaining your sense of self.
Begin Codependency Therapy in Houston, The Woodlands, League City and Midland
Our therapists support and assist clients to connect with their authentic self and learn to love, not hate, themselves. Also, behaviors will be evaluated that are not currently working for them. We utilize multiple therapy modalities based on the client’s personality and problem. The therapy modalities are all research based and are showing success based on the particular problems and the client.
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Make the Next Step!
1 Reach Out
Schedule a free consultation by texting or calling 281-819-0308 or filling out the form below to learn more about us, ask questions, and see if you would like to move forward!
2 Begin The Healing
Experience the healing experience of therapy, where you can show up just as you are knowing we will do the same!
3 Discover Meaningful Support & Goals on your Treatment Plan
Begin leaving a peaceful and fulfilling life you deserve- free from past pain & connecting with who you were meant to be!