Codependency is a term often used in the context of being in a relationship with someone who abuses substances; however, there are many who suffer from codependency who are not. More so, a promising symptom is codependents choose to focus on others needs; which is why they attract individuals who are emotionally sick.

Another term for codependency is anxious attachment. The truth is our body is wired to securely attach to someone who is emotionally safe. Some of us grew up in homes that weren’t exactly emotionally nurturing, so our bodies had to adjust to survive. So our surviving attachment coping patterns had to cope somehow, and that is how anxious attachment is MOSTLY developed. I say mostly because not everything is black and white!