What is Affair Recovery?

From the moment you found out about the affair, your world has been spinning. Maybe you sensed the distance between you, knew there were problems, felt like something was just…off. But you still can’t wrap your head around the betrayal and pain you feel. You both want to work through this, to find a way to rebuild trust, access forgiveness, and move forward. What you want more than anything is to find a way back to each other, and to come out the other side of this stronger and more committed to each other. Where do you begin, again?

Both you and your partner are likely experiencing a wide ranger of powerful feelings in the aftermath of infidelity .You likely feel blindsided, hurt, angry, disappointed, betrayed, and even a little afraid. You wonder if you are somehow to blame, or may feel like you should have seen the signs sooner. Your partner may feel ashamed, guilty, defensive, and like they don’t recognize the person they’ve become. They may wonder if there’s any way they can ever make it up to you, or if you will ever trust them again. You may wonder about this too.

Can we survive this?

The good new is that infidelity does not have to be a death sentence for your relationship. With counseling, many couples not only survive the fall-out of infidelity, they gain a deeper understanding and appreciation for each other and the relationship. It may be hard to imagine right now, but the potential for healing and reconnection is available to you both. While your relationship will likely never be exactly as it was pre-affair, you have the unique opportunity to rebuild your connection into something stronger, healthier, and more honest. Nothing makes you appreciate your love quite like the risk of losing it all. If you’re committed to holding on, we can help you repair, nurture, and grow your love.

What happens next?

In therapy, you and your partner will learn to open up and honestly share your underlying feelings, desires, and needs. You will focus on communication, accountability, overcoming defensiveness, and building trust and goodwill. You will learn to recognize and overcome destructive patterns in your relationship, as well as any childhood wounds or relationship traumas that could have contributed to the affair. You may gain greater insight into each other and clarity about your relationship goal and desires.